From the beginning attending twelve-step meetings, I have yearned for a recovery program free of religious ideology, as imposed by all twelve-step programs through the He – His – Him God higher power concept prescribed to practice the twelve-steps.
Recovering from any compulsive behavior is challenging enough on its own without having to also navigate through religiously biased Steps Principles. No person requires a God affiliation to understand skills to become a nurse, physician or plumber. Likewise, addictions or recovery do not depend upon your being a Christian, Buddhist or Agnostic believer.
Despite dwindling memberships, Twelve-Step programs remain stuck in the past, unable to acknowledge or make changes to adjust and respond to people like myself. Al-Anon has declined to approximately 24,000 groups worldwide, from 36,000 groups in the 1980’s. A.A.’s membership numbers remains the same today as 30 years ago
Times change and we change. Regardless of whether we agree or disagree to the changes. Change can show itself in subtle ways. Like how I felt a gradual shift in my leadership role with the Second Cup. Especially in my last 2 years as CEO. My entrepreneurial leadership no longer fit the much larger growing Second Cup infrastructure. Becoming aware something had to change, myself or Second Cup. Utilizing Steps Principles, I examined the issues and my feelings, and came to understand it was best I sell Second Cup and move on. I made a change to experience a Steps Principles transformational renewal, physically, mentally and emotionally.
Even with my desire for the twelve steps to change, I am forever grateful for the Twelve-Steps meeting rooms that provided me a pathway to a better way of living. Because of the Twelve-Step program, I was able to evolve and develop these new inclusive Sixteen Steps.
We have waited far too long for Steps Principles that are not filtered through religion, god and gender. Everyone deserves Steps Principles that they can identify with, including secular-minded people, agnostics and atheists.